1. Be the "yes" gal. This is not your wedding. This is her day.
Be agreeable. Nothing ever good has come from a disagreeable
bridesmaid.
2. Leave your negativity at the door. Support and accept her decisions, even if
you would not make the same ones. Whether she wants blue roses in her
bridal bouquet... or if she has her heart set on serving pigs in a
blanket as a main course at the reception, it's her choice.
3. Be a part of the party. As a bridesmaid, it is your duty to
participate in all wedding activities, even if you despise the bouquet
toss, get out there. When it is time for the toast, be present and ready
to smile and click your glass.
4. Stick with her style. This is not the time to "force" or
impose your style and ideas upon your friend, the bride. This is her
day. Plan a bridal shower and a bachelorette party that reflect her
taste and style.
5. Be a true friend. This is
about more than doing your bridesmaid duties. The bride asked you to
participate because you are friends and she trusts you. Don't let her
down now. Listen when she needs to vent or brainstorm, and when you see
it is all too much, make her take a break. Steal her away for a cup of
coffee - no wedding talk allowed.
6. Behave. You do not want to be the talk of the wedding… the
day after. That means no sneaking off with a groomsmen, getting into a
disagreement with her sister-in-law or passing out in the hall. Not a
good idea… for obvious reasons.
7. Be a voice of reason. Stay calm. Even in the most stressful
moments, keep your head about you. Calm is contagious.
With these simple bits of wisdom, being a bridesmaid can be fun, and
truly define your relationship for the rest of your lives. Most of all,
it is important to remember to take the task seriously and remember you
are doing this for your friend, the bride.